Im so confussed?

im 12 ,dont really have any friends.

-I cut i know its not a good thing to do but it keeps me going.

-I hate my parents ,They seem to care, my dad is a selfinvolded J*rk ,and my mom is too raped in her own life to nodice

-my two brothers . well i only talk to one of them (He just moved away) and my other one .. we have nothing in common so we dont talk

-I have alot of problems (anixety,Depretion,Panic,anger,Getting nervuse around peaple and several others) i feel like there is to much wrong with me to even try

-I know suicide very selfish.. i jsut feel that it wouldn't change peaple much

And i would leave a note to why i did this

-Latly i haven't been able to feel and emotions .. I hate it i asked a few peaple online and they sayed i should go see a threpist before i take any drugs ,but i reallllyyyy dont want to see one and plue im sure my mom wouldnt take me

-Yeaterday i asked my mom if i could die my hair black or even just a strand of hair black and she sayed no way%26gt;

Im so confussed?

When you are cutting yourself as an escape from mental pain, it is because you are depressed. Thus we need to treat the depression, both physiologically and "psychologically". As you have problems talking to your parents I suggest you talk to the school counsellor or other adult you can talk to.

You are probably hypoglycemic which contributes to your depression. Ask a therapist to explain the article below.

Ask to be referred to a Nutritional Doctor or a Clinical Nutritionist.

Im so confussed?

LISTEN TO ME SWEETHEART...... I am 37 years old and I have alot of problems too. They never go away, but with the right medication, they really can get better, honestly. You said there's too much wrong with you to even try. First of all, THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU, you are just suffering from real emotional disorders. It's not your fault that you have these problems, but it IS your fault that you always feel so badly because you refuse to believe that therapy will help. YOU DON'T HAVE TO SUFFER!!!!!!! I know exactly how you feel and what you are going through. I am not a cutter, but I do have bipolar disorder, which causes VERY EXTREME emotions, so I know where you are coming from. Please don't do anything crazy until you get a chance to talk to someone..... you can talk to me if you can't think of anyone else, ok?

Im so confussed?

First thing you have to do is go to school and learn spelling. now that's over. You are only 12 and you have a hell of a life a head of you. Set up your own standers and make your life a little easyer If your in middle school. this should be the happyest time of your life. It's so much fun and you have all the boys that are checking you out. So you may see one that you really like. Just remember that you have to have respect for your self before anyone can give you respect. Now go out there and put a smile on your face and bad thoughts in the trash. GOOD LUCK!!! I know you can do it.

Im so confussed?

Dear confused,

I have been diagnosed with panic attack disorder and I have had it for the past year and a half. I have learned alot from my personal experiences. What I can tell you is of course don't commit suicide. I have turned my life around from a gloomy, depressional state into a better place, of course there are alot of problems that are still present but I am dealing with it the hard way, threw sweat and tears. You want to know whats worst than feeling suicidal... is feeling suicidal but being so pure hearted and not being able to do it!!! I haven't had any therapy except for my CD that says how to relax your muscles, focus on the present and breathing of course like I said my personal experiences. I have lost my best friend, problems in school, my sexuality and even my beliefs in my religion of course. I internalise a lot of my emotions and I can tell you right now its not healthy, I know this is going to sound so cheesy but... just be yourself, put down that shield and start from scratch as if it was a brand new day with no history, only the present and the future. Just follow your dreams and don't give up hope. If you want to contact me, go on my profile page and then send me and e-mail, I also have facebook and MSN. I would be glad to share my thoughts, experience and wisdom with you.

P.S. I am much better at helping and convencing people in person so just to tell you it might sound much more different and emotion less on the net!! :P

God bless.

Im so confussed?

SUICIDAL THOUGHTS: I went through a similar thing to you; it's important to realise that you are probably deeply depressed at present, but even so, you may still remember times when life was good. Well, it can be again, and soon: but you need treatment, which is readily available; all you have to do is reach out for it. See suicidal thoughts, and depression treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris in sections 5, and 2. If the suicidal feelings become overwhelming, take a taxi, or call an ambulance, or use public transport, to take you to the nearest ER, or mental health facility, or call your local emergency number. 911 (USA), 000 (Australia), 999 (Great Britain), or 111 (New Zealand); see the phone book elsewhere. Don't drive, yourself: you may well be a danger to others on the roads, in your current mental state. Too many people are found, and revived, but have suffered permanent mental damage, and live the rest of their lives in a semi vegetative state: their family, and friends feel guilty, and responsible, for not noticing the signs, and doing something about it. It's a very nasty thing for them to have to go through, too, even though I appreciate that life is certainly no bed of roses for you, at present, so please, get help, right now: seek assistance, or use the hotlines provided. There is a quiz about depression, through sections 1, and 2, at ezy build, below: print the result, and take along to your primary mental health care provider. My standard post follows, but, if you are young, antidepressants are unsuitable for young people, because they have been shown to increase the rate of suicide, homicide, and aberrant behaviour. See depression treatments, at ezy build, below, in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy.

It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, and Nathanial S. Lehrmann, MD, Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, at www.mercola.com and many others: avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, %26amp; antidepressant websites: pages 2 - 2ii).

The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read it, and section 1. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments" of the multidimensional approach to treating depression, including occupational therapy, Omega 3 fish oil supplements, or , preferably, "krill oil", (use the searchbar at http://www.mercola.com/ ) relaxation techniques, and exercise, with others as options, such as the supplements: SAMe, Inositol, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective.

The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even weeks to begin becoming effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people (they will always be there, if you find you can't function without them). Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and totally unable to cope with daily life, or suicidal, in which case I'd try them, after reading the printed insert, and informing myself of the risks, and side effects).

If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking around 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol / L). It should be above 32 ng/ml.

Don't use medications and supplements together, without medical advice, except for Omega 3, which is safe, anytime. Omega 3 fish oil supplements: EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid (omega 3) ----360 mg.DHA (docosahexaenoic acid (omega 3)-----240 mg

Take enough supplements to attain, or exceed the levels (no possibility of overdose) of those every day, with an orange, or the juice of a freshly squeezed orange, grapefruit, or other antioxidant.

(make sure the epa is higher then the dha) important for adults... kids need the opposite levels: more dha than epa, but all are beneficial, if you can't achieve the recommended proportions.

They should be certified as being free of mercury, and if containing vitamin E, it should be shown as from a natural source; otherwise it is synthetic: avoid it! Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, (60% of depressed people have low vitamin D levels!) using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult to achieve.

If the above is insufficient for you, after several months, (unlikely) try one of the alternatives, such as the neurofeedback, magnetic, or low current electrical stimulation, or EMDR therapy, (see sections 33 - 34) keeping ECT back, as a last resort. See self harm, in section 16, and contact them, when you feel the need to self harm/cut. Panic attacks, and anger management are addressed in sections8, and 4. You have a lot of serious problems: consult a doctor: print this Q %26amp; A, and take along. Visit your school counselor.

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Plopper,

Life as a preteen and a teenager can be very difficult because you are going through a phase where you really don't know yourself and the people around you don't know who they are. Your problems may seem big, but they really aren't and you need to understand that if you want to get past them. Most people your age go through the same thing but it is how you deal with these changes that will define you as a person. Some people just shrug it off and others let the little things get to them. Everyone is different but that doesn't mean that you personally don't fit in anywhere.

You first need to be positive to yourself and your surroundings. Don't be a loner but rather embrace people around you, talk to people, interact and make new friends. You said you have very little friends but that doesn't mean it has to remain that way. Go out and get to know people, you are young and while you may think you don't have anything to offer, you have to understand that you as an individual are unique and can offer a lot in the way of opinion and knowledge to others. Start off with your brother, you said you have nothing in common, BUT yes you do, you live together, have the same parents and can probably strike up a conversation fairly quick with him if you want to. You will be surprised how much the two of you share.

Your parents do care about you and love you but you may not see it. So what that they don't want you to dye your hair, maybe it is for the best. Do you really need to do it? Probably not, but you are young and sometimes parents know what's best. It doesn't mean they hate you. Shutting them out of your problems isn't a great idea either, let them know how you feel. Sit down with them and talk, but talk in a civil manner, don't yell and say, "you don't understand" that will make things worse. Listen to them and they will listen to you, and make them understand what you are really going through. Remember parents were young once also.

Also, be active, don't just go home all the time and sit there. The more you are alone the more you will think you will remain that way. Go out after school, hang around people that go out, go to a movie with someone or the mall, even if it is just one person to start out then that's fine. You have to start out somewhere so you might as well start tomorrow. The more you sit home the more you will be negative and think bad thoughts. Being with others makes life better and fun. When you are home engage your mind in a book or a video game, don't just think about problems but do something that stimulates your brain.

Look, you may get a lot of advice here but we can't fix your problems, you have to do that yourself. Try and stop the bad habits of cutting and thinking depressed thoughts and lift yourself up. You understand that suicide isn't a solution and now it time to put that part of you away and find a new you that is happy to be you.

I am sure you are a smart young girl that can offer the world something if you put your mind to it. Now it is time for you to convince yourself of that. Get a fresh start tomorrow and live a happy and healthy life.